Happy Mother’s Day! Yup, I am talking to YOU!
I realize you might be reading this and think, “but I am not a mother” and that might be true in the literal sense. But this is Sunday salutations, so, let’s get metaphorical alright?
So something that I’ve always been fascinated with is the exercises and conversations with my inner child. I’m sure you’re hear of this and maybe even tried it yourself; it’s a wonderful way to get to the root of some confusing feelings, lingering emotions, or frustrations you just can’t seem to shake. There is another exercise that is similar and pretty darn powerful as well. It’s the idea of being your own parent(s). Regardless of how smooth or rocky your IRL parents were when you were younger, there are always places where our parents taught us rules that weren’t the best for our development, like emotional exploration (ex; “oh just shake it off. Don’t cry!”). This isn’t in anyway to place blame on our parents, truth is, most were just doing their best and parenting in the way they understood. That’s okay! That doesn’t mean we as grown up humans have to continue to follow those rules.
A lot of the time, we are still acting, thinking, and reasoning with the way we’re were taught as children. I still feel as if I’ve shot someone in the chest if I am more than 1 minute late to a commitment. And finally I’ll ask myself, “why do I still subscribe to this rule that my parents put in place for me when I was 10?”
For Mother’s Day, I want you to sit down and figure out how to be your own mother. This mother know exactly what you need for comfort, forgiveness, safety, and nourishment. It’s a faultless plan because if you are being your own parent you know exactly what you and the different avenues on how to achieve that healing.
You don’t have to finish your plate before leaving the dinner table.
You don’t have to feel bad for no longer wanting to hold a commitment if it’s causing you emotional harm.
You don’t have to wear something that is acceptable to others.
You don’t have to bottle up your emotions while you’re around company.
Maybe some of these rules makes sense to you and you want to continue to subscribe to them—great! My mother has so many brilliant qualities that I hope to keep her spirit within me as I continue to gown; however, when it comes to who influences my actions? I want it to be me.
Happy Mother’s Day!
You are enough.